WTF is up with that Find A Grave website??
That thing needs to be taken down if there’s no mods.
PSA: if you have a headstone for your family, go make a page for the grave before someone else does. Apparently anyone can write whatever they want and it’s published without a care in the world.
I Googled my mom’s obituary yesterday and I found there was an entry for her on Find A Grave. Interesting.
So I go look at it and I realize that my schizophrenic cousin has made entries for everyone in my family. That wouldn’t be a huge problem except he posted my grandma‘s Social Security number on her page, on my mom‘s page he listed every address she has ever lived at in her entire life, birth to death.
This is extremely upsetting to me because I’m still alive, and because I was her daughter I also lived at a lot of those addresses, so this man and this website is making it extremely easy for someone to steal my identity.
Apparently you can also upload whatever pictures you want and it just posts them to the website. Maybe there are filters to make sure it’s nothing obscene but I just made a page for my own grave so my cousin doesn’t steal it and put whatever he wants there, and it let me upload photos.
Then I came across my friend’s page and the photo added isn’t his stone. Not even close.
Y’all never in a million years would I have thought to go claim my “find a grave” page so no one else can make one and put my Social Security number and every address I’ve ever had on it.
I’ve written to them to try to reclaim my family’s memorial pages, I’ve suggested edits removing all the personal information, I don’t know how to get in touch with my schizophrenic cousin so I sent him a message through that website telling him it’s extremely inappropriate. If he wants to keep control of my grandma’s page because that’s his grandma as well that’s fine as long as he takes her Social Security number off of it.
But this man took control of my deceased father‘s page, he’s my mother‘s brother‘s son, he is no relation to my father by any stretch of imagination. He had no right. But this website gives anyone the right to make a page for any dead person and right whatever they want to write on there.
Is doxxing still illegal if the person is dead? It should be. I closed my brother’s estate last year but I’m pretty sure they keep it around to make sure that there are no claims left unpaid. At least he didn’t put my brother’s Social Security number up there. Yet.
